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TODAY is the best day of my life! Alexandra Bertschy |
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Issue 9—Vol III September 2010 |
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Newsletter |
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We would accomplish many more things if we did not think of them as impossible -- Chretien Malesherbes |
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How do we make a dream come true?
LOVE – Let Our Visions Exist . . .
First of all, I believe we must accept that it is precisely you and me who make that dream happen, and no one else. So, whatever happens, we must take responsibility for anything and everything that is happening around us.
Secondly, and just as important, we must know what our dream really is. To know what we want, we need to know who we are.
It doesn’t matter in the slightest what our personal dream is or whether anyone else shares our desires or beliefs. We are respectively you and me, unique beings with individual thoughts and feelings and no one can tell us otherwise. It matters not a hoot what anyone else is thinking or doing. We do our thing and let others get on with whatever is theirs.
I know very well what I want. Sometimes I get confused between focussing passionately on my desire until it seems real and the ‘cosmic ordering’ way which is to state it, release it and forget it. Sometimes I am scared to put a label on it, i.e. this particular handbag or this specific house or car, because I want to leave some leeway for the Universe to improve on my thinking. Maybe that’s wrong, maybe that’s right – who knows? I accept that anything that takes me one step further forward and one step nearer my detailed dream can only be a good thing.
We are all different and we all function at different levels. We cannot drop down to a different level when we have already been there and done that. Nor can we leap to some astronomically high plane without passing through some of the preparatory work needed so that we enjoy the heights to the maximum.
As I said, I know exactly the house I want to live in, down to its address and what furniture I put into it and where. I have even printed postcards with a picture of this house and my new address and placed them in strategic positions around my current home. That is my house, my dream. It comes into my life because I love it! If I were to show this property to Roman Abramovich (Russian billionaire and owner of my darling Chelsea Football Club), he would not want to spend more than five minutes in it and would maybe consider it at best fitting for one of his employees. He is more intent on building the world’s biggest yacht and competing with the handful of multi-billionaires who can permit themselves to do this; and very importantly keeping Chelsea in their winning ways. And good for him – those are his dreams, his thoughts.
On the other hand, if I showed this property to someone currently trying to survive some dramatic vagaries of nature, this person would think I was thoroughly decadent and how could I waste my money and thoughts on such trivial things when he/she is fighting for their basic human needs. And maybe some of my friends or family would think I was in cloud cuckoo land and why did I want all that when they make do with less. |
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So what do I do? Do I abandon my own desires to help those in need or to appease my friends and family? Will that actually help them fulfil their own dreams? Does it even cross Roman Abramovich’s mind that he should give up his yachts so that I can realise my dream? Of course not!!! Mind you, if he wanted to contribute to the realisation of my dreams, who would I be to refuse him that pleasure??!!???
We cannot change who we are or where we are in order to please others. However, we can all do something within our means and abilities. Recently there have been several stories in the press about millionaires/billionaires who are giving away part of their vast fortunes to charities and to help those less fortunate than them. I think this is absolutely wonderful and I hope that this is an indication of how the world is evolving, in the realisation that we are all connected and we each contribute something, in our own way, to the planet. Those wealthy people are not hurting themselves by what they are doing; their own lives and families are not suffering in any way. They have just realised that money sitting in banks and trust funds is useless money and can be better used to help humanity right now. And you know what? I am sure it will come back to them multiplied . . .
But back to us and whatever it is that we consider to be OUR dream. How are we going to achieve it? Believe, believe and believe. I have a quote on one of my vision boards that says: “If you can imagine it, you can have it!” – not sure where this quote came from but what matters is that I am aware of it and believe it. Likewise I believe that the Universe is conspiring in my favour, always. Also we must love what we have chosen – if we cannot feel that passion, that excitement about it, how can we expect the Universe to do it for us.
Why do certain thoughts come into our heads and not into the heads of others? Because that is just how it is meant to be. Some of us are here to be artistically creative, some of us are destined to design technology that helps all of us, yet others will find medical cures for any and all diseases (even though I am of the school who believe that our own mind is what causes and cures any of our physical ailments). There are those whose role in this world stage production is to build houses, repair roads, drive delivery trucks, farm crops and raise animals so that we others can eat – and there are those who do nothing more than to enjoy what is here on earth. Everyone is absolutely essential to this world turning as it must and no role and no dream is either stupid or too much or too little and definitely not impossible. I suppose that even criminals are necessary as without them there would be no law enforcement or judicial system – I might not like or approve of them, but it is not for me to dictate to any other human how their life must be lived.
I am not saying that technology is good or bad – personally I love it and am capable of wanting and buying any and all gadgets that appear on the market, the newer and smarter the better – but I cannot help but thank Microsoft and Apple and SKY and many more innovative companies for having made my life if not better then certainly more fun.
And what is life if there is no fun . . . come on, ENJOY, LOVE - and fulfil those dreams!!!
©ADB 2010 |
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A quickie . . .
Hindsight is a wonderful thing and the older one gets, the more time one is able to look back on. I always say to people that I have had a wonderful and amazing life and this really is true. I believe I am - and always have been - a happy person.
However not every single day of my life has been a fairy tale. I have cried, I have been angry, I have felt depressed and I have yelled at others; I have done pretty much most things that an average human being does in a lifetime. I have been for the most part quite privileged but now I am founder of a new clique: the Nouveau Pauvre (not new rich, but new poor). I have no regrets, simply because that would be pointless and I am not one who likes to waste her time on useless things. I cannot change anything in the past. BUT, I can use all of it to ensure that today and tomorrow are even better for me than anything I have previously known.
I feel that in the past five years or so, I have learned more than in the preceding 50 – and that in itself is a miracle given that I am still 39 [forever!]. Seriously though, it does seem as if time is speeding up and all of humanity is rushing at breakneck speed towards new and wonderful things. Having always been an impatient one and someone who knows no limits, I find this just great and I love it!
Is there any one thing that stands out for me as being a very important lesson? Maybe. I think that often in my life I have run away from things, physically removed myself so as to no longer see or be near what was bothering me. That in itself might not be a bad thing, particularly if anyone is enduring some kind of abuse, physical or emotional. But the thing that I was perhaps doing wrong was that I took some of the bad feelings with me and carried them into my ‘new’ life. So what I have now learned is that it is fine to distance oneself from whatever is causing pain, but before going, bless the source of that perceived injury, wish them well, release them to the consequences of their own life and do not give them one more thought! The quicker you do that, the sooner you feel really good about yourself.
Yeah, yeah – because we’re so worth it!!! [Thanks, L’Oréal] ©ADB 2010
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You are Beings who intend to come forth and to continue to expand and grow and change. What is the perfect age? "Well, it's the age where I finally understand my freedom, and I finally understand that I am free to create, and it's the age that I am at my most beautiful." And we say, by whose standards? In other words, who gets to decide the perfect age? And we say, rather than determining what the perfect age is, why not decide what the perfect state of being is—and then discover that you can find the perfect state of being at any age -– Abraham |
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Reader’s question of the month:
I know who I am and I know what I want, but nothing seems to be working out for me. Am I deluding myself that I can do, have and be anything I want?
Whoa . . . that’s a pretty harsh judgement, thinking you are delusional. And whether this were to be true or not, it seems fairly obvious that just having such a thought is what is preventing all your wellbeing coming to you.
First of all, what you believe you want, however farfetched it may appear to others, is precisely what you do want. It is no-one else’s business to tell you what you ought to be thinking or wanting. If you thought like them, you would be them. But you are not; you are you. The older you are, the more ‘baggage’ you carry with you. All those years of people telling you that this is how it should be done and this is all you can aspire to and tons more of such negative input; well little wonder that you have lost all faith in yourself and you now consider yourself less than worthy to have or do all the things that inspire you.
Secondly, what is reality? This is a very hard concept to grasp and I still struggle with truly understanding that everything we see and touch is just mutable energy and that it is with our thoughts that we modify that energy. After all, those things just feel so solid. But it is all about perception. You know only too well that when an event happens- one event – there will be ten different versions of what occurred from ten different persons.
If you were born in the 21st century, well you won’t be reading this for one thing, but it is for sure that your perceptions of this world are very different to those of us who were born in the previous millennium. No one is to blame, but life after WWII evolved at a tremendous pace. Base values changed – and most of them for the good. Racial acceptance came into being and in the words of some old song: we really do live in a ‘great big melting pot’. Today there are many people still alive who lived during WWII and they cannot help but keep telling everyone what a terrible world this is now and how everything was so much better in their day. Well, that is a very debatable point; but the fact is that their negative and dated energy still affects you, whether you want it to or not and until, in the words of Abraham, those beings croak and pass on, you will continue to find yourself living in some turmoil – torn between what you absolutely know is right for you and those outmoded things being told to you by supposedly well-meaning people.
I know that it is discouraging when you feel that nothing is happening in your life the way you want it to and even harder to believe at times that this is all happening for a very good reason. But the best thing you can do right now is work on your feelings of self-esteem and accept totally that you deserve all the things you choose to want.
©ADB 2010 |
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Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall -- Confucius |
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I would never die for my beliefs because I might be wrong -- Bertrand Russell |
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If everyone on earth loved each other, the earth would shine brighter than the sun -- Source unknown |
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Four short words sum up what has lifted most successful individuals above the crowd; a little bit more. They did all that was expected of them and 'a little bit more' -- A. Lou Vickery |
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Overwhelment is about you not being up to speed with what you told the Universe that you want. The Universe is yielding to you. You're just not ready to receive it right now -– Abraham |
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There is only one you... Don't you dare change just because you're outnumbered! -- Charles Swindoll |
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© ADB 2010 |
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My life is beautiful, I have it all . . . But even in the sunshine, one has to cry sometimes -- Susan Jeffers
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All that is necessary to break the spell of inertia and frustration is this: Act as if it were impossible to fail. That is the talisman, the formula, the command of right-about-face which turns us from failure towards success -- Dorothea Brande |
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Live in the new house, mentally, until it takes form around you physically. In the mental realm, enter at once into full enjoyment of the things you want . . . "Whatsoever things ye ask for when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them," said Jesus -- Wallace D. Wattles |
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You are the right person, this is the right time, you've paid your dues, you're thinking the right thoughts, you're doing the right things, and this very moment, you are exactly where you're supposed to be . . . poised for the happiest time of your life -- The Universe |
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If someone wants "A" to happen, yet they prepare for "B," they will always get "B." Prepare for "A" -- The Universe |
