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Happiness isn’t getting what you want; Happiness is appreciating what you have! Alexandra Bertschy |
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Issue 8—Vol III August 2010 |
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© ADB 2010 |
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I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet -- Mahatma Gandhi |
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Can life be simple? Absolutely! Can life be scary? That too . . . So is there a recipe for the perfect life? Let’s hope so and take a look whether we can find some scraps of menus to help us achieve this.
One of the hardest things for most people is being able to let go. That means letting go of things, people, habits – just anything that might be preventing us from experiencing the full, rich and happy life we came into our physical body on this planet to live.
Most of us have read or seen The Secret – and now this month Rhonda Byrne is coming out with another book called The Power – and in one form or another we have come across the Law of Attraction. Believe me, the Law of Attraction works just as well as the Law of Gravity. We never think about the Law of Gravity however and that is probably why it works so well.
As for the Law of Attraction, most of us are constantly getting in our own way, trying so hard to make it happen, that we miss the very essence of its purpose. And why is that? Because we do not let go of our imbedded beliefs and habits, most of which have definitely not served us well to date. I accept that it is very hard to go against the grain; against all those things our family and schools and even society itself have taught us. There is nothing wrong with any parent, any school or any government, provided we feel that their beliefs are ones that actually do work for us. In which case, go for it big time!
However, if we feel that life isn’t actually bringing us our heart’s desire, whatever that desire may be, then let’s take a look and see if we can’t find a way to make things better for each of us.
The very first thing is that we must look at who we really are. No holding back and saying or thinking what we feel we OUGHT to be doing. It really doesn’t matter how crazy or far-fetched our thoughts might be, they are OUR thoughts and they are the only ones that will ever work for us. So even if we are dirt poor and dream of living in a mansion, that’s OK, if it really feels right for us. Although the distance between where we are and where we want to be seems enormous, remember that there was a time when it was inconceivable that one could fly from the UK to Australia in a matter of hours instead of travelling for days or weeks.
Likewise, if we feel lonely and have almost given up hope of ever finding the right life partner, hang in there. We each know what is right for us and of course who is right for us. Let no one tell us to settle for someone they might deem to be ‘appropriate’ for us. Only we know the answer to that one. It will happen when we let go of the belief that we must have a life partner because otherwise we will always be lonely. We push aside friends and acquaintances while waiting for Mr/Mrs Right. I know that with each passing year, it gets harder to meet new people. Our options shrink as we are no longer part of an educational community or even work community. But everyone has contact with someone in the course of their day and the right life partner for as appears when we least expect it, in the place and time we would least look for it.
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And don’t forget, how can we expect another being to love us if we do not love ourselves and first of all, we need to discover our true selves. So how do we know who we really are? It seems really easy, doesn’t it? We are Jane/Joe Bloggs, son or daughter of Mr and Mrs Bloggs of a specific country, born in such and such a place and time, of fixed spiritual beliefs – because that is how it has always been! Well, let’s rubbish that for a start.
As a happy free spirit, we did indeed choose to come to this planet to play a particular role – as WE saw it and it is WE who prepared the script. This doesn’t mean, of course, that we can’t ever ad lib it. The people, place and time we chose are a meaningful part of our life lesson, be that in a positive or negative way. It would be nice to think that we would all chose ideal parents providing the perfect education and the path would run perfectly through our adulthood and the offspring we produced and so on until the day our ‘three score and ten’ years had run out and we would just drift off, back to our free spirit state.
But it doesn’t quite work like that, does it? Afraid not! You see if it did, there would be absolutely no point in being here. It would mean we already knew it all, had done it all and believed that life was complete and had no room for expansion.
Thank heaven it is not like that. Whether our lives are good or sad, they have a reason and if we can find that reason, peace and calm can return to our lives. There is no point being called Joe or Jane if something is telling us that we are a Charlie or Charlotte. Our parents chose a name that fitted with their vibration at the time – hence the poor kids lumbered with names like Heavenly Nirvana or Sky or Neptune. It is great that the parents expressed themselves, but that is not necessarily an expression of who we are.
The only faith and beliefs that our parents were likely to teach us were those given to them by their own parents. If those beliefs corresponded to our parents’ expansion, that was fine; and even better if we agreed that this was how we felt. But what about the many people who do not feel good in their skin for whatever reason – their name, their place of residence, their religious practices, their education and so on.
It is perfectly OK to have our own thoughts. If we didn’t, if no one ever had, then the world would never have evolved. We can criticise some things today as being bad, but what is bad for us may be good for others.
The best way to be happy is to find our true self, no hang-ups, no cheating, no thoughts of what others might or might not approve of – just let it all out: the things that please us, the way wee dress, the music we enjoy, the friends that enrich us, the things that make our heart sing. Nothing is too much or too ‘silly’. Think back to the James Bond films of the 1960’s with all the gadgets that seemed really cool back then – now looking at them in 2010, my goodness aren’t they archaic. Did they seem possible back then? No, they were science fiction in the minds of most people. But someone believed it could all happen and someone (well, many someone’s actually) went and tried and then it all just worked out.
The only rule to remember is to be ourselves and to respect at all times the choices and decisions made by others, even if - and particularly when - they do not correspond to our own thoughts. Whoever we each are, whatever we each want – trust, believe, have faith and just KNOW that is does happen for each of us exactly as we want it to.
Now get out there and DREAM that REALITY into BEING!!! ©ADB 2010 |
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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent -- Eleanor Roosevelt |
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Just like the wild beasts, you want your own autonomy. You want freedom. You want freedom from negative emotion. You want freedom from somebody telling you what to do. Whether you are consciously aware of it or not -- what all of you want is a sense of Well-being –- Abraham |
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Don't discard your fantasies as merely wishful thinking. Honour them as messages from the deepest part of your being about what you can do and directions you can choose -- Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer |
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MAUI RULES Author Unknown, from a T-shirt bought in Maui (Hawaii) |
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A quickie . . .
July was an incredibly full and busy month for me – the World Cup Final, Wimbledon Final and all those fascinating apocalyptic movies on SyFy and several other quite serious channels like the History Channel and National Geographic. I watched most of them and actually thoroughly enjoyed them all. First of all, they all taught me a few facts I did not know about our planet and its place in the Solar System, then some geological details about the composition of Planet Earth and what could throw it off track. But then, the films or documentaries portrayed ways of getting past these hurdles and almost without fail, those circumstances united humanity and perhaps served as a reminder to us all that we are all connected, we all come from the very same Source and we shall one day return to that Higher Energy. So actually they were all really feel good films.
And to give an example of one such small connection: the other week I watched a documentary about how in a few billion (yes, billion, not even million) years our Sun would die and what that passage to death would mean for Planet Earth. Their experiment portrayed the fact that all life on this planet would dry up and no sign would remain that there had ever been life on Earth. I mentioned this to my friends, in the sense that maybe this showed that those planets we see (such as maybe the Moon or Mars or Venus or Jupiter) were once as lively as Earth currently is. And lo and behold, the very next day, BBC News brought out an article that there may well have been life on Mars!
I am no scientist in the recognised fashion, but in another sense we are all scientists and connected in our quest to learn and know things – and long may that thirst for knowledge thrive! ©ADB 2010
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Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life -- Dr. Wayne Dyer |
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Love and desire are the spirit's wings to great deeds -- Goethe |
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It is in solitude that we discover that being is more important than having, and that we are worth more than the result of our efforts. In solitude, we discover that our life is not a possession to be defended, but a gift to be shared -- Nouwen |
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Every choice before you represents the universe inviting you to remember who you are and what you want -- Alan Cohen |
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Reader’s question of the month:
No questions during July and August – have declared it holiday time . . .
The only service a friend can really render is to keep up your courage by holding up to you a mirror in which you can see a noble image of yourself. George Bernard Shaw |
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Mirth is God's medicine. Everybody ought to bathe in it -- Henry Ward Beecher |
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The reason the grandchildren will benefit by the launched rockets that you've set forth; is because they're born with no resistance to the rockets of desires that you've launched forth... You've seen those little ones on computers? They have no problem with that. They were born with computers in their life; they're born cable-ready. They're already up to speed with what you've launched into the vibrational future. And that's one of the reasons that it's nice when the old ones croak and the new ones come in, because it sort of dilutes the resistance factor that's going on on this planet -– Abraham |
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Keep on sowing your seed, for you never know which will grow - perhaps it all will -- Albert Einstein |
