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Happiness isn’t getting what you want; Happiness is appreciating what you have! Alexandra Bertschy |
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Issue 10/11—Vol. IV October/November 2011 |
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In the world to come each of us will be called to account for all the good things God put on this earth which we refused to enjoy -- The Talmud |
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It may seem funny now, but believe me it was very upsetting at the time. Duly complained but nothing was done by this cowboy firm. I ended up having to find a true professional to hang these doors the right way round, only to then learn that the whole unit was ready to collapse as the back panel was out and these removal geniuses had fitted the floor of the wardrobe as the top shelf and yes, you’ve got it, the solid floor of the wardrobe became the shelf and thus there was a 2-inch gap at the bottom. I still cannot understand why they had to totally disassemble this unit and probably never will. But still this company could not swallow its macho pride and admit that they had royally screwed up on this job.
I was this close to suing them – indeed lynching them would have been very satisfactory to me, even better, feeding them through a car crusher could have brought a large grin to my face – but then, luckily for me, I had a thought. This was just one rubbish removals firm with whom I need have nothing to do, ever again. It is behind me forever. I forced myself to focus instead on the numerous good people in my life: wonderful gardener, great window cleaner, superb hairdresser, beautician and manicurist, amazing delivery people – not too sure about Royal Mail and their ever-later deliveries however, but moving on – nice shop assistants and of course onto my entourage of fantastic friends, some of whom may even be related to me . . .
I do remember reading a long time ago and I think it came from Abraham-Hicks, that if 98% of your life is rubbish but you concentrate uniquely on the 2% that is wonderful, all of a sudden that 2% becomes 100% of your life.
We all get annoyed – and very often with due cause – and it is up to us whether we allow this to be 98% of our world or whether we shrug it off and choose instead to live all the good moments we have as our 100%.
I will never stop wanting more and always having new ideas about what I intend to do, have or be next and that is what life is meant to be. The young lady who does my nails recently said to me – and she is barely 30 years old – that she loves her life and believes that every day is for living, loving and learning. What a wise soul!
Remember any time something or someone annoys you, they are just sad little people and if you remember the global statistics of population then one person is just 0.000000000001425% of our population – and please do not check my maths!!! – I am sure you get the message.
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I sometimes find it very hard to write these newsletters. It is not because I have nothing to say; on the contrary it is usually because too many thoughts run through my mind. Every day, without fail, I continue to look at my gurus’ inspirations for the day and I am still compiling my book of daily quotations which now stands at 415 A4-sized pages . . . and going strong! Each day I give thanks for everything in my life and try my best to apply all the things I find so easy to preach.
Well, let’s see what comes flowing out now . . . I notice that finally the official count of the world population has been confirmed at 7 billion, a figure I have been using for some time now. It is hard to envisage what 7 billion actually means and I hope the following will help you put this – and indeed your whole life and the things that occur within it – into some true perspective.
So, 7 billion people . . . the population of the UK is set to hit 70 million or 1% of the world; the population of London – the real London, not with those bits that are really Middlesex, Essex, Kent, Surrey etc – is around 7 million or 0.1% of our planetary total. A bid football/sports stadium can contain 70000 people, 0.001%. If you have 700 friends of Facebook, you are doing really well and that represents only 0.0001% of the planet – and the reality would be more likely that you actually have 70 friends or acquaintances whom you have actually met, and that is just a measly 0.00001% of all humans on planet Earth!!!!
Now doesn’t that make you feel small? And what should you be feeling when one tiny little person does something to annoy you . . . the car that toots at you or the person who pushes in front in a queue or the irritating work colleague – need I go on.
And this is the whole crux of the matter. We all, including all of us so-called gurus and coaches, get annoyed by trivial things and we can all so easily blow these things out of proportion and give them way too much importance.
Silly example – I recently moved house and unfortunately I chose the removal company from hell. Everything was done upside down, e.g. they removed all seats and cushions from my living room furniture, dumped it in my new sitting room which is unfortunately not the size of a football pitch and then were surprised when they had no room to bring in the bases of that furniture!!! They dismantled a 3-door wardrobe as you should, in other words this splits into a one-door unit and a 2-door unit, just as it had been brought into my old home. I didn’t keep a constant eye on them and nor did the owner of the firm who just cleared off mid-afternoon. Delighted to see the back of them at the end of a nightmare day, it was only much later that I looked at my wardrobe and saw that they had re-fitted the doors on the 2-door unit upside down!!!! |
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A quickie . . .
I am often criticised, that is receive negative comments about the fact that I live TODAY!!!! I am aware that these comments come from a place of fear, a place of envy, that the person observing me has not yet found his/her own courage and faith. I consider it one of my best achievements to be able to live today, without a single backward glance [except to rejoice in some extraordinarily wonderful moments] and totally without one thought for what may – or may not – happen tomorrow. Today my life is absolutely wonderful, everything is just perfect. Of course, my active imagination can – and does – already visualise the next batch of things I want to have or accomplish. And that is just fine.
Nobody, no living creature on this planet, has a tomorrow – not guaranteed. It doesn’t matter if you are a child, adolescent, adult or elderly person; none of us knows for sure that we will be alive tomorrow – or in an hour’s time! Naturally the younger you are, the greater your expectation that this will be the case – and thankfully it usually is. However as time goes on, the best you can do is have hope that you see another tomorrow.
So if today is all you have, why on earth would you waste it?
Worrying about a tomorrow that does not even exist is completely futile. You have no idea about the unexpected things that tomorrow could bring and tomorrow is plenty time enough to decide how to deal with those things if and when they happen, good or bad.
I have heard several stories recently of people who ‘did the right thing’ and through their working life planned and saved for their old age, using pension funds or unit trusts or other investment instruments, while depriving themselves of some treat today – only to be told now that what they expected to receive as their reward for this ‘sensible’ thinking and sacrifices is 30-50% less. How clever does that now seem?
Remember, this moment is the only one we have . . .
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Someone gave me this glass, and I really like this glass. It holds my water admirably and it glistens in the sunlight. I touch it and it rings! One day the wind may blow it off my shelf, or my elbow may knock it from the table. I know this glass is already broken, so I enjoy it incredibly -- Achaan Chah Subato |
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When you shift your vision from what your bank statement says to what your soul statement say, lack dissolves and abundance reveals itself -- Alan Cohen |
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Sometimes the hard way is really the easy way and the slow way is really the quick way. Yet such sublime surprises may remain forever unknown when one waits... and waits... for the quick and easy way to manifest. Choose the "happy way," and then time won't matter. Go! The Universe |
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No matter what it is, if you really want it, and if you get out of the way of it, it will happen. It must be. It is Law. It can be no other way. It's the way this Universe is established. If you want it and you relax, it will happen -- Abraham |
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When it starts to rain, let it -- Unknown |
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For true peace of mind we must acknowledge whatever fault we live upon, whatever time bomb ticks in our closet, and enjoy our Shangri-la nonetheless. It isn't the absence of the problem; it is how one lives in its presence that matters -- Chungliang Al Huang
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My daddy had a good philosophy. He said, 'If there is something you can do about it, get off your butt and do something. If you can't do anything about it, don't worry about it! -- A woman whose house was just destroyed by a flood |
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Don't push the river. It flows by itself -- Barry Stevens |
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Now that dogs are once again allowed on our beach, Chelsea plays with a baby Lhasa Apso in the sand . . . |
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To know that you do not know is the best. To pretend to know when you do not know is disease -- Lao Tzu |
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A happy life is just a string of happy moments. But most people don't allow the happy moment, because they're so busy trying to get a happy life -– Abraham |
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“Should" and "shouldn't" are signs of our need to conform. It is better that we learn to follow our heart...to follow our instinct about the way life is best lived for who we are as human beings -- Susan Jeffers |
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All his life a man struggles to reach the top of the ladder, and finally he does - only to discover it's against the wrong wall! -- Unknown |
